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Missionary Kids Need Spiritual Direction




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 Tom Daniel
209 Pond Dr.
Divide, CO 80814
719-687-3331
road2hebron@jesusanswers.com
CHILDREN OF MINISTERS ARE WOUNDED IN WARFARE.
"While ministers may have an understanding (that they will suffer for ministering in Christ's name), their families may not.  Sadly, witnessing the persecution of family is all too common an occurrence for the children of ministers throughout this world. The children of Christian leaders are often among the casualties of any battle. . . Even further, they are forced to endure the uprooting of their support system.  . . Isolation, both emotional and physical became the reality in which they exist." (http://www.pastorsinpain.com/THE FORGOTTEN VICTIMS)

David Pollock (Interaction, Inc.) includes MKs in his characterization of Third Culture Kids (TCK) below:
"A TCK is . . . an individual who, having spent a significant part of the developmental years in a culture other than the parents' culture, develops a sense of relationship to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Elements from each culture are incorporated into the life experience, but the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar experience."
The concept of home becomes confusing for the third culture child or returning expatriate. Home is where you feel most comfortable, most at ease. For an individual who has lived outside his/her passport country for an extended period of time, the return to HOME may not be a return to familiar places, familiar people, or familiar routines or interactions. The familiar will more likely be the culture in which he/she has been living: the home that the heart recognizes. This can cause considerable confusion and disillusionment.
 
"Member care is the ongoing investment of resources by mission agencies, churches, and other mission organizations for the nurture and development of missionary personnel. It focuses on everyone in missions (missionaries, support staff, children and families) and does so over the course of the missionary life cycle, from recruitment through retirement . . . the goal is to develop godly character, inner strength and skills to help personnel remain . . resilient . . . and effective in their work."
 (Dr. Kelly O'Donnell, Doing Member Care Well,  WCL 2002, p.4)

    CHARACTERISTICS OF MISSIONARY KIDS:

Emotion, Personality,Developmental, Social:
Split personality
Not only feel  but are different
10%  attuned to home country living
90 % feel out of "sync" all their lives
Prolonged or delayed adolescence
Try to fit in as adults
Commit after expectations are known
Unable to share
rich inner lives 
Avoids looking foolish or hurting others
International Contacts:
92%/yr with foreigners
25%/month socialize
80%
some foreign language
20%
foreign language often
Keep a current passport
Travel abroad
Decorate homes with international touches

Occupational/Professional Life:
>80% professionals, executives, or managers/officials
25% educators or administrators
17% medical or legal fields
17% self-employed
Few in corporations, government
Few follow their parents' career paths
56%  international  careers

Education:
Change college/ majors 2x
Time off from college
81%
BA (USA avg 21%)
40% earn master's degrees

Family and Community:
Lower divorce rate
80% marry (41% after 25)
60% international experience-spouse

Associations of Life
Coaches
Coaches Network at www.coachville.com
Christian Coaches Net
work at www.christiancoaches
network.com .
International Coach Federation at www.coachfederation.
org defines the
dynamics of life coaching: